Relationship tips: 7 strategies for couples to address the transitional phase during perimenopause

Perimenopause: Many women may feel self-conscious or less desirable due to changes in their bodies or sexual functioning, leading to decreased sexual activity and intimacy with their partners (Image: Canva)

As you approach your late 40s or early 50s, you often find yourself facing a myriad of physical and emotional changes. Hot flashes, mood swings, sleep disturbances, and fluctuating hormones are just a few of the symptoms that signal the onset of perimenopause, the transitional phase leading up to menopause. While these symptoms are widely acknowledged, what is often overlooked is the impact they can have on your relationship with your partner.

Furthermore, physical symptoms such as hot flashes, night sweats, fatigue, and decreased libido can impact intimacy and  relationship satisfaction. Many women may feel self-conscious or less desirable due to changes in their bodies or sexual functioning, leading to decreased sexual activity and intimacy with their partners. This may lead to strained communication, increased tension, and feelings of disconnect within the relationship.

Here are some effective measures to help you and your partner deal with the transitional phase :

Open and honest communication: It is important that you talk to your partner about what you are experiencing during perimenopause. Share your feelings, concerns, and needs, and explain your expectations. Creating a safe space for dialogue can strengthen your connection and encourage empathy and understanding.

Educate yourself and your partner: Learn about perimenopause and its symptoms. Understanding the physiological changes happening in your body can help both you and your partner manage the symptoms more effectively and with greater care.

Practice patience and compassion: It is important to be compassionate towards yourself and your partner. Remember that perimenopause is a changing phase that will eventually pass. Be gentle with yourself and with each other as you deal with the challenges together.

Don't hesitate to seek support: Ask for help from your partner, parents,  doctor, therapists, or support groups specialising in menopause and relationships. Having a support system in place can provide validation, guidance, and practical strategies for coping with perimenopausal symptoms within your relationship.

Make self-care a priority: For both you and your partner. Engage in activities that promote relaxation, stress reduction, and  well-being. Explore options such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, and quality time together.