Keep the spark alive: Thank each other daily, say things you appreciate, take out time to talk

Relationship tips: If you want to build real connection with your partner, you need to give them uninterrupted time for love to thrive. Have a date night: go out to eat or for a walk in the park or cook dinner together (Image: Canva)

Every relationship, no matter how loving or passionate, evolves over time. The early days of romance are often filled with excitement, newness, and spontaneity, but as the years pass, the demands of daily life can sometimes take centrestage, leaving the relationship feeling routine or even stagnant.

While it’s natural for relationships to change, keeping the spark alive requires conscious effort from both partners. By prioritising communication, spending quality time together, and showing appreciation, you can maintain a strong and vibrant bond.

• Communication: The backbone of long-term intimacy

Good communication is the core of every healthy relationship. Couples can sometimes become used to only talking logistics, or issues about chores, work schedule, etc. However, if you are looking to improve your emotional connection, make time to discuss each other’s emotions, dreams, and expectations.

Research in the Journal of Marriage and Family has found that effective communication in couples results in greater relationship satisfaction and emotional intimacy.

Listening is just as important as speaking. Being interested in your partner's thoughts and emotions makes them feel understood and increases your connection with each other.

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• Spend quality time together

When things get hectic, it’s easy for quality time to get sidelined. If you want to build real connection with your partner, you need to give them uninterrupted time for love to thrive. Have a date night: go out to eat or for a walk in the park or cook dinner together.

Try new things to break out of the routine. Learning something together, such as dancing, hiking, or even taking a class, can create shared experiences and bring back a sense of adventure. According to a study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, doing new activities together can reignite excitement and strengthen bonds.

• Show appreciation and gratitude

Couples eventually get used to each other and forget the little gestures like thanking your spouse for making coffee or pointing out their efforts. Share everyday with your spouse, for example, before bed, one thing you appreciated about them that day. According to research in the Journal of Positive Psychology, expressing gratitude improves relationship satisfaction and fosters a deeper emotional connection.

• Maintain physical intimacy

Physical intimacy is a vital component of a healthy relationship, but it can sometimes take a backseat when you’ve been together a long time. Physical connection doesn’t just mean sex — it includes hugging, holding hands, cuddling, or even just a reassuring touch. These small gestures release oxytocin, the “bonding hormone,” which promotes feelings of trust and affection.

If physical intimacy has waned, start with small, intentional actions, like a goodnight kiss or sitting close while watching TV. Build from there, communicating openly about each other’s needs and desires.

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• Keep surprises alive

Surprises can reignite excitement and make your partner feel valued. It doesn’t have to be extravagant — small gestures like leaving a love note, surprising them with their favourite treat, or planning an unexpected outing can create moments of joy and connection.

Spontaneity reminds your partner of the thoughtfulness and care you have for them, adding a sense of novelty to the relationship. Studies in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology reveal that surprise and unpredictability in relationships can boost happiness and satisfaction.

• Support each other’s individual growth

A healthy relationship allows space for individual growth. Encourage your partner to pursue their passions, hobbies, and personal goals, and do the same for yourself. When both individuals are fulfilled, they bring more energy and positivity into the relationship.

Celebrate each other’s achievements, no matter how small. Feeling supported fosters trust and strengthens the bond between partners, ensuring that the relationship continues to evolve and grow.

• Resolve conflicts effectively

Arguments are inevitable in any relationship, but how you handle them makes all the difference. Avoid blame and focus on finding solutions together. Practice active listening during disagreements and validate your partner’s feelings.

The Gottman Institute, known for its extensive research on relationships, emphasizes the importance of maintaining respect and avoiding contempt during conflicts. Couples who handle disagreements constructively are more likely to stay connected and keep the spark alive.

Keeping the spark alive in a long-term relationship doesn’t mean recreating the intensity of the early days—it’s about nurturing a deeper, more meaningful connection.