'Women overthink, men are more patient': Delhi dating service founder faces backlash for viral post

Addressing dating women, Ayushmaan Kapoor wrote, 'If one unread message can hijack your peace, so early in your relationship then you don’t need a partner - you need to fix that void first.' (Representational image: Unsplash)

A Delhi-based founder of matchmaking service has come under fire for a viral post on Threads in which he claimed that women “spiral over the smallest things” in early dating, while men are “surprisingly more patient.” Ayushmaan Kapoor's post, which was intended as a commentary on modern dating behaviour, has triggered a wave of criticism, particularly from women who accused Kapoor of trivialising their experiences and perpetuating gender stereotypes.

In his original post, Kapoor recounted anecdotes from his matchmaking service, The Date Crew, citing examples of women ending communication with men over delayed replies, missed calls, or perceived lack of seriousness. One woman, he wrote, blocked a man for not calling as promised—only to later learn he had a 102°F fever.

"Another stopped talking because he took five hours to reply. When we asked why, he said he was on a flight," Kapoor wrote. "And my favourite - a woman ended things because after three weeks of chatting, he hadn’t told his parents about her yet. She called it a red flag because she tells her dad everything."

“We’ve started noticing a pattern—so many women spiralling over the smallest things,” he added. “Why do so many women overthink the smallest things—while men, surprisingly, seem more patient?”

‘It's not biological, it's socialised': Women respond

The post quickly went viral, drawing sharp responses from women across the world who accused Kapoor of ignoring the emotional labour women often carry in relationships.

“It’s shocking you’re a matchmaker and haven’t figured it out yet lol,” one user wrote on Threads. “Women today want a man who will share the mental load and be fully present—and men today have not been raised to be prepared for that expectation.”

Another pointed out: “A woman would text, ‘I’m sick and going to pass out, call tomorrow?’ Because women anticipate needs in ways men do not. It’s not biological—it’s socialised—and it can be unlearned.”

Kapoor's rebuttal: ' You don't need a partner, you need to fix that void' 

In response to the backlash, Kapoor posted a follow-up thread, doubling down on his original stance. He argued that early dating anxieties stem from unresolved “attachment voids” and that people should not “outsource emotional stability” to someone they’ve just met.

“If one unread message can hijack your peace, so early in your relationship, then you don’t need a partner—you need to fix that void first,” he wrote.

The rebuttal, however, only intensified criticism.

“You’ve spent two days mansplaining to women why they should coddle men,” one user responded. “I don’t think today’s comments are going to go any better than yesterday’s.” Another added: “Think you’ve missed the point completely. No one owes each other anything, but common courtesy is key to showing at least humanity.”