Slow love: Is love that grows over time the key to lasting relationships?

Today, everything moves fast; the food, the schedules, even the way you meet people. A swipe or a tap is all it takes to connect with someone new. But just as quickly as that excitement comes, it disappears. That’s why more people, especially young adults, are starting to slow down when it comes to love.

“This new trend is called slow love — and it simply means taking your time to truly get to know someone before jumping into a relationship,” says Archana Singhal, Counsellor, Family Therapist and Founder of Mindwell Counsel.

Speaking about connections, Singhal says, “Many people now want more than quick chemistry or a temporary thrill. They want someone who understands them on a deeper level.” She explains that the pandemic made people reflect on who they are and what they want. It helped many realise that strong relationships are built on:

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• Trust
• Respect
• Feeling safe to be yourself

She says slow love is becoming more common among young people because they want emotional comfort, real connection, and personal growth, not just instant sparks. “Slow love is a reminder that some things should not be fast. Real love takes time. It grows gradually, becomes stronger, and lasts longer,” the expert says.

According to Singhal, these are the core parts of slow love:

• Emotional safety: It’s not about the first rush of attraction. It’s about feeling comfortable enough to show your real self.

• Growing together: Partners support each other’s dreams and help each other improve over time.

• Understanding each other’s love language: Taking time helps couples communicate better and meet each other’s emotional needs.

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• Patience and effort: Slow love isn’t about racing into a relationship. It’s about taking the time to build something strong.

Infatuation — the early excitement—usually fades. “Slow love, on the other hand, becomes deeper with time. It allows couples to understand each other, feel valued, and build something real.” Singhal says, adding,  “Couples who take things slow often have healthier, stronger relationships. They see their relationship as a journey, not a race. They grow together and keep learning about each other.”