9 psychologist-backed tricks that will help couples get closer

Feeling distant in love? A relationship psychologist shares simple, science-backed ways to rebuild trust, connection, and intimacy with your partner. (Image: Pexels)

Falling into love is simple, but remaining in love is a job. As time passes, flame often fades into simple comfort – or, in many instances, silent separation. Work, parenting, and the daily burdens of life can lead to the emotional distance of love that two people can hardly recognize in their partners. But all it takes is a little psychology to remember that the love we experienced is still there and can be revived with the right measures and dedication.

“Connection isn’t about doing grand gestures; it’s all about another little moment,” says Dr Priyanshi Verma, a known relationship psychologist and the creator of SoulSync Relationship Wellness in Bengaluru. “The happiest pairs learn how to show compassion, reflect, and thank repeatedly to each other,” Dr Verma tells Moneycontrol.

The following psychology principles can help couples re-establish love, trust, and psychological closeness in their core relationships. It is simple, normal, daily emotions, like thoughtful concentration, recognition, personal space and silence. It doesn’t matter if you’re just beginning your journey as a pair or loving a long stroll, adhering to these realistic concepts can assist you recapture these sensations.

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Eye contact releases oxytocin, the hormone that influences feelings of fondness and security. Whether you are enjoying a discussion or a quiet moment together, gazing into your partner’s eyes will make you both feel closer. Eye contact helps couples feel appreciated, seen, and connected. It also reduces misunderstandings and increases emotional consciousness, allowing partners to experience a sense of togetherness.

Active listening refers to being fully present in a conversation rather than thinking of a new reply. Nodding, soft eye contact, and repeating what your partner has insinuated will be sufficient to demonstrate understanding. Your significant other will be grateful that you two completely understand one another’s intentions. Active listening minimizes tension, resolves conflicts more quickly, and promotes openness, making couples feel secure enough to express their emotions openly and honestly.

Expressing gratitude daily might appear to be the most simplistic gesture but it keeps the spark alive. Daily practice of expressing gratitude demonstrates and affirms that your partner matters and helps those in a relationship develop a cycle of love. Gratitude feelings compensate for accumulated anger, and active appreciation enhances mutual respect. Both lovers become more comfortable in expressing their sentiments openly and truthfully, resulting in better emotional fulfilment.

Engaging in an exciting experience such as travel or learning new things generates dopamine, the same brain benefit that couples get in the early phases of dating. Mostly shared events on the road generate and trigger studies of passion and curiosity in our partners. Trying out anything new is always a source of delight and fun. The joy of exploration forges strong memories among the two individuals and enhances the emotional bond.

Rituals such as morning tea, evening strolls, or seeing a movie every Tuesday offer emotional stability. They are small anchors that remind couples of their relationship while life swirls around them. Couples derive comfort and ease from the rhythm of regularity. Recognizability and predictability provide a sense of security. With time, these auspicious occasions become critical moments for the couples, reminding them of their union and togetherness.

Couples draw closer rather than apart when given space. Personal autonomy gives you the tools to rejuvenate your attitude and develop as a person because becoming an individual makes you a superior partner. There’s no dependency because you know you can exist without the other. Space offers you what you need to stay interested in the other person.

It’s an excellent option to offer actual closeness to your partner. The physical touch fosters emotional connections since we all want to be close to those we appreciate.

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The whole idea of learning to communicate with your partner is based in conflict. Calm reasoning leads to mutual admiration, emotional security, and longevity. Never make it a competition because it’s not.

When we ponder good times, we are happy in our current situation.