‘Ours to yours’: Thyrocare founder reflects on generational shifts in relationships

Drawing a contrast between the past and present, A Velumani reflected on the cultural and emotional shifts.

Dr A Velumani, founder of Thyrocare, offered a commentary on how romantic relationships and the idea of partnership have changed across generations, in a series of social media posts that resonated widely online.

Drawing a contrast between the past and present, Velumani reflected on the cultural and emotional shifts that have shaped how couples today view concepts such as love, money, space, and identity. “In the 1970s,” he wrote, “money was not yours or mine, it was ours.” The sentiment captured a bygone era when shared resources reflected shared lives.

By contrast, Velumani suggested that in today’s relationships, even physical spaces such as bedrooms are viewed through the lens of individual ownership. “‘Your bedroom, my bedroom’ is the current trend,” he noted, adding that what was once “ours” is now increasingly defined as “yours” or “mine.”

“This isn't just about semantics,” he said. “It is a reflection of a cultural shift—one where personal freedom, growth and the pursuit of a higher ‘standard of living’ have taken precedence.” He acknowledged that such changes reflect evolving values and lifestyles, but questioned whether these advancements come at the cost of something more meaningful.

“People born in the 1950s might call this a fall in ‘quality of life,’” he wrote, invoking a generational lens to explore the dissonance between comfort and connection. The post sparked conversations across platforms, with many agreeing that while modern couples enjoy more autonomy, they may also face challenges in sustaining deep, long-term bonds.

In an earlier post, Velumani had addressed another aspect of modern marriage—the shifting priorities in how couples prepare for their journey together. Comparing two divergent approaches, he wrote: “Some invest money, energy and knowledge to plan for 50 years of married life. Others spend it all on a 50-day wedding celebration.”

The implication was clear: too much emphasis on outward grandeur can obscure the deeper foundation required for long-term harmony. “After 50 days of spotlight, it is difficult to live 50 years in darkness,” he remarked, warning against fleeting glamour in favour of enduring peace.