A 24-year-old woman bride in the UK was recently left in a tight spot when she received a surprising request from her mother-in-law -- her wedding dress.
Describing the incident on Reddit, the bride said that soon after her wedding to Marcus (25), his mother told her that she and her husband were inspired by them to renew their marriage vows.
The Reddit user said she was “happy for them and thought it was a great idea”. Marcus's parents were " going to get their vows renewed a month from now, they both said that my wedding inspired this, my parents did the same but on a smaller scale when I was 19.”
“Rose came to me with the request that she wear my wedding dress since she was forced to sell hers when Marcus was a kid, and didn't want to spend the money on a brand new wedding dress. I was shocked and just told her that I would think about it.”
The Reddit user added that the reason her mother-in-law asked her instead of renting or thrifting a dress is because she doesn't think clothing should be rented out and she'd feel uncomfortable wearing a stranger's dress.
She then added that after much thought she realised that she was not comfortable with the idea. "I honestly don't want her to wear it. I want to preserve it for a future daughter or granddaughter and the dress would have to be altered in order to fit my MIL," she wrote. "I'm also afraid of it possibly stained or torn since Rose is clumsy and has ruined expensive clothes of mine or her own because of it. The fabric is delicate and part of it is white, which is notoriously hard to get stains out of it."
The bride added that her husband does not know about the matter yet and although her mother-in-law keeps reaching out to her about it, she has not given her an answer yet.
Responding to her post, another Reddit user wrote, "Politely, but firmly say no. Do mention it to hubby first because MIL is going to call her son once you say no, and he needs to be on the same page as you. Your wedding dress is a very personal thing for a woman. You are just not comfortable with your dress being loaned out and altered a few months after your wedding."
Another commented, "It's a bizarre, boundary-trampling request. It sounds like you've lent her clothes before, and while she doesn't want to spend money, her borrowing and ruining your clothes has cost you. A wedding dress is very personal. A polite "I'm not comfortable with this, it's too personal to me" should settle the matter. If her boundary-trampling turns this into a drama, then you'll know who you're dealing with."
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