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14 Oct 2008 12:51
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Rajeev Masand / CNN-IBN
Cast: Sharman Joshi, Sohail Khan, Eesha Koppikar, Gul Panag, Amrita Arora and Sharat Saxena
Director: Atul Agnihotri
There`s a scene in Hello in which the six protagonists of the film are trapped in a car that`s dangling precariously off the edge of a construction site. Death is imminent.
Until they are saved by a phone-call from God.
This one time — just this one time — you wish God had been busy attending to something more important, so the characters in this film had indeed plummeted down to a gruesome end. For one, it would have made this film at least fifteen minutes shorter. And two, it would have been a very fitting revenge for the agony these characters put you through just watching them go about their scenes in this terrible film.
Adapted from Chetan Bhagat`s bestselling novel One Night at the Call Centre, Hello is an embarrassingly amateurish movie. Remember the kind of class plays one put up in the school quadrangle when one was 12?
This film is only a marginally more professional effort than that. The screenplay, written by Bhagat himself and the film`s director Atul Agnihotri, is slipshod and contrived, and in fact it`s so silly you can`t help laughing even when you`re not meant to.
The plot`s focused on a group of six call-centre employees in Mumbai who`re grappling with serious personal issues, and the life-altering experience they go through on this particular night-shift.
Starring Sharman Joshi as a call-centre team-leader in the making, and Sohail Khan, Eesha Koppikar, Gul Panag, Amrita Arora and Sharat Saxena as the members of his team, Hello makes it abundantly clear that attention-to-detail isn`t top on its list of priorities.
Call-centre employees everywhere will no doubt be horrified at the careless manner in which their jobs and they themselves have been represented in this film.
Starting with the call-centre in Hello, which looks more like the lobby of a three-star hotel, to its executives who always seem to be on a break or using official lines to make personal calls, the filmmakers seem unaware of and indifferent towards even basic details about the world they`ve set their story in.
The very backdrop of a call-centre could have made for an interesting film; if nothing else a slice-of-life drama about the youngsters who`re employed at such places. But the makers of Hello never really dig deep. What you get are feeble attempts at comedy, a generous dose of America-bashing, and even a serving of some pop-patriotism.
The characters in this film are dull and uninspired, and the actors playing these characters are just as bored.
Sharman Joshi and Sohail Khan lend a few moments of silly humour, but the others appear to be sleepwalking through their scenes.
Some characters — like the call-centre head-honcho and the systems maintenance guy — are exaggerated to such a degree that they come off looking like idiots. Salman Khan and Katrina Kaif, who bookend the film with short appearances before and after the main drama, have evidently been roped in to lend some star support, but they can`t do a thing to make Hello any less boring.
When you occasionally find yourself laughing in your seat, you realise you`re laughing AT the film, not WITH it. In the end, Hello is not just a dull film, it`s an extremely stupid one. It`s one of those films that has virtually nothing good in it.
I`m going with one out of five and a thumbs-down for director Atul Agnihotri`s Hello. Go for a long walk in the park instead of suffering through this awful film.
Rating: 1 / 5 (Poor)...
Cast: Sharman Joshi, Sohail Khan, Eesha Koppikar, Gul Panag, Amrita Arora and Sharat Saxena
Director: Atul Agnihotri
There`s a scene in Hello in which the six protagonists of the film are trapped in a car that`s dangling precariously off the edge of a construction site. Death is imminent.
Until they are saved by a phone-call from God.
This one time — just this one time — you wish God had been busy attending to something more important, so the characters in this film had indeed plummeted down to a gruesome end. For one, it would have made this film at least fifteen minutes shorter. And two, it would have been a very fitting revenge for the agony these characters put you through just watching them go about their scenes in this terrible film.
Adapted from Chetan Bhagat`s bestselling novel One Night at the Call Centre, Hello is an embarrassingly amateurish movie. Remember the kind of class plays one put up in the school quadrangle when one was 12?
This film is only a marginally more professional effort than that. The screenplay, written by Bhagat himself and the film`s director Atul Agnihotri, is slipshod and contrived, and in fact it`s so silly you can`t help laughing even when you`re not meant to.
The plot`s focused on a group of six call-centre employees in Mumbai who`re grappling with serious personal issues, and the life-altering experience they go through on this particular night-shift.
Starring Sharman Joshi as a call-centre team-leader in the making, and Sohail Khan, Eesha Koppikar, Gul Panag, Amrita Arora and Sharat Saxena as the members of his team, Hello makes it abundantly clear that attention-to-detail isn`t top on its list of priorities.
Call-centre employees everywhere will no doubt be horrified at the careless manner in which their jobs and they themselves have been represented in this film.
Starting with the call-centre in Hello, which looks more like the lobby of a three-star hotel, to its executives who always seem to be on a break or using official lines to make personal calls, the filmmakers seem unaware of and indifferent towards even basic details about the world they`ve set their story in.
The very backdrop of a call-centre could have made for an interesting film; if nothing else a slice-of-life drama about the youngsters who`re employed at such places. But the makers of Hello never really dig deep. What you get are feeble attempts at comedy, a generous dose of America-bashing, and even a serving of some pop-patriotism.
The characters in this film are dull and uninspired, and the actors playing these characters are just as bored.
Sharman Joshi and Sohail Khan lend a few moments of silly humour, but the others appear to be sleepwalking through their scenes.
Some characters — like the call-centre head-honcho and the systems maintenance guy — are exaggerated to such a degree that they come off looking like idiots. Salman Khan and Katrina Kaif, who bookend the film with short appearances before and after the main drama, have evidently been roped in to lend some star support, but they can`t do a thing to make Hello any less boring.
When you occasionally find yourself laughing in your seat, you realise you`re laughing AT the film, not WITH it. In the end, Hello is not just a dull film, it`s an extremely stupid one. It`s one of those films that has virtually nothing good in it.
I`m going with one out of five and a thumbs-down for director Atul Agnihotri`s Hello. Go for a long walk in the park instead of suffering through this awful film.
Rating: 1 / 5 (Poor)...
14 Oct 2008 12:49
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You seem to have adopted the same cavalier approach towards your retirement as well. 24 hours after announcing your retirement, you are stating that you were hurt by being ignored for the Irani trophy game which was a precursor to the present Aussie tour. Are you then suggesting that you were in no mood to quit the game but are being forced to do so? If that is indeed the reality, then why did you chose to make this revelation literally on the eve of a series which will see the most formidable middle order ever seen coming together for the last time? You have a place of pride in our hearts, there is no need for you to tell us that you may have been wronged. We know you could have carried on maybe for two or three more series on the test match level. But we don`t associate whining with you. We only look upto you for your aggression on the field. We don`t care when gossip magazines say that you are having an affair with Actress Nagma just before the start of an important series.
We don`t bother when the wags say that you have fallen out with Jagmohan Dalmiya and that is a problem for you. But we will ask you, if you felt saddened by the lack of support shown by your illustrious colleagues when you were going through a bad patch. When Chappel was charging you of spoiling the spirit of the dressing room, were you not surprised that not even the great Sachin Tendulkar refused to speak out?
I still remember an interview that was done by us with him, and he refused to show his video. He insisted that only his audio should be broadcast. You kept mum then too. The point is that if through your playing career, you spent your off field time trying to dismiss all these conspiracy theories with the same elan that you would hit a six over long on, then why are you spoiling the after taste in our mouth now? If you want to call people names, well do a frank interview with cnn ibn after having scored a hundred in your last match, which ironically will be played at the same venue which had become a stigma on your name. In Nagpur! I wonder how many people will now be looking at that 22 yard wicket as closely as they did when you didn`t play the same team last time around
In the end, your initials are as famous if not more than the other man with the same initials. Sunil Gavaskar, Saurav Ganguly. Both of you legends in your own right, we don`t want to remember Gavaskar for refusing to captain the 1983 world cup winning squad, we dont want to remember Saurav Ganguly as someone who was wronged. We just want to remember you for your off side play. You are the god of off side, Gods don`t crib.
May you have a peaceful retired life! May you set the Eden on fire with SRK during the IPL tournament! Thank you for providing us with so much entertainment on the field and off it.
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We don`t bother when the wags say that you have fallen out with Jagmohan Dalmiya and that is a problem for you. But we will ask you, if you felt saddened by the lack of support shown by your illustrious colleagues when you were going through a bad patch. When Chappel was charging you of spoiling the spirit of the dressing room, were you not surprised that not even the great Sachin Tendulkar refused to speak out?
I still remember an interview that was done by us with him, and he refused to show his video. He insisted that only his audio should be broadcast. You kept mum then too. The point is that if through your playing career, you spent your off field time trying to dismiss all these conspiracy theories with the same elan that you would hit a six over long on, then why are you spoiling the after taste in our mouth now? If you want to call people names, well do a frank interview with cnn ibn after having scored a hundred in your last match, which ironically will be played at the same venue which had become a stigma on your name. In Nagpur! I wonder how many people will now be looking at that 22 yard wicket as closely as they did when you didn`t play the same team last time around
In the end, your initials are as famous if not more than the other man with the same initials. Sunil Gavaskar, Saurav Ganguly. Both of you legends in your own right, we don`t want to remember Gavaskar for refusing to captain the 1983 world cup winning squad, we dont want to remember Saurav Ganguly as someone who was wronged. We just want to remember you for your off side play. You are the god of off side, Gods don`t crib.
May you have a peaceful retired life! May you set the Eden on fire with SRK during the IPL tournament! Thank you for providing us with so much entertainment on the field and off it.
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14 Oct 2008 12:48
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My dear Saurav
I am not a Bengali so I don`t keep a fast for you when you take guard on the cricket pitch. Nor do I follow you whenever you step out of your palatial bungalow in Behala.
I don`t go to your restaurant in Kolkata which is one of the most famous destinations for most bongs in Bangla land. But like millions of cricket lovers in this country, I follow every stroke you play, every time you danced down the track to pulverize a hapless leg spinner, every time you played that magical cover drive on the off side, the sight of which was as beautiful as Lord Byron`s poetry.
So on this Maha Ashtami day, when you have decided to quit your international career, here is an ode from me on behalf of the entire cricket loving community of India.
You gave us what no other skipper or cricket player had managed to provide to us. That sense of confidence, we too could look at a 6-4 inch fast bowler in the eye, we too could win on foreign wickets, we were no lions at home but cubs abroad. We will never forget the English Summer of 1996 when you and your great friend Rahul Dravid were making a long lasting impression on the cricketing map.
I still remember a comment which was made by Sir Geoffrey Boycott just before the beginning of the test series. It was one of the warm up games, and no one knew whether you had been selected as a batsman or a bowler. While you were bowling, Boycott said, " This lad is so gentle in his pace that even my mum in law can hammer him out of the park. " The very next delivery, you had prized out a wicket. You were made to bat at number 7 or 8 even in that same practice match. So it was indeed a pleasant surprise to see you score that magnificent hundred making your debut at Lords.We will remember you for the sheer joy of seeing the Aussies squirm when Steve Waugh`s all conquering unit had arrived in India for the 2001 series. They called it the final frontier, the Sachin Assault on their tour of 1998 was still fresh on their minds, you gave the Aussies as much as they gave you.
Steve Waugh had been engaged in a mental war even before a single delivery had been bowled because you made him wait for the toss. That series will be remembered for VVS Laxman`s 281 at your home ground the , Eden park, but it will also be remembered for the kind of gamesmanship that you displayed so far not seen in India. You showed that there was nothing wrong in an Indian expressing emotion on the cricket field. You may not have had the pace or the physique of a Shoaib Akhtar, but your attitude was as aggressive as him. Little wonder, that Shoaib described you as the best skipper that he had ever played under during the IPL tournament. Pakistan was a team that you had decided to dominate.
You helped us erase the memories of Javed Miandad hitting that last ball six of Chetan Sharma by your own belligerent brand of batting. I can recall your innings from Toronto during the Sahara Friendship cup, to Karachi to the Wankhade! That was the time when Pakistan had a formidable bowling attack, Wasim Waqar followed by Aaquib Javed and Mushtaq and Saqlain bowling leg spin and off spin in tandem. You showed what you were really made of.
It was under your scrutiny that the fulcrum of India`s next generation of cricketers was discovered. Yuvraj Singh, Harbhajan Singh, Virender Sehwag all highly talented players who were groomed well because of your own damn care attitude towards the red tapism so part and parcel of Indian cricket. You took your shirt off at the balcony at Lords when Yuvraj Singh and Mohd Kaif won the tri series final against England. Our chest got a few cms broader that day. An Indian skipper had made Lords look like the feroz Shah Kotla.
We will also remember you for helping us in erasing the controversial match fixing scandal. You had taken over the reins of the Indian team when mistrust was lurking around everyone. Every false move was being construed as one under the influence of bookies. You showed that India had the cricketers who were not only tough physically but mentally as well. You missed the Nagpur test against the Aussies in their last journey here ostensibly because you were scared of facing Mcgrath on a fast bouncy green top.
Papers stated that you had begged Shashank Manohar, a top official of the Vidarbha cricket association to chop out the grass but he didn`t. You were charged of creating a fear psychosis in the team by telling everyone that the wicket was unplayble. Famous batsmen infamous coach Greg Chappel accused you of playing for your own vested interests, of looking after your financial interests at the cost of the team. You kept quiet, came back to the team in the tour to Australia and scored a brilliant ton there. You had always let your bat do the talking when the situation got too hot to handle....
My dear Saurav
I am not a Bengali so I don`t keep a fast for you when you take guard on the cricket pitch. Nor do I follow you whenever you step out of your palatial bungalow in Behala.
I don`t go to your restaurant in Kolkata which is one of the most famous destinations for most bongs in Bangla land. But like millions of cricket lovers in this country, I follow every stroke you play, every time you danced down the track to pulverize a hapless leg spinner, every time you played that magical cover drive on the off side, the sight of which was as beautiful as Lord Byron`s poetry.
So on this Maha Ashtami day, when you have decided to quit your international career, here is an ode from me on behalf of the entire cricket loving community of India.
You gave us what no other skipper or cricket player had managed to provide to us. That sense of confidence, we too could look at a 6-4 inch fast bowler in the eye, we too could win on foreign wickets, we were no lions at home but cubs abroad. We will never forget the English Summer of 1996 when you and your great friend Rahul Dravid were making a long lasting impression on the cricketing map.
I still remember a comment which was made by Sir Geoffrey Boycott just before the beginning of the test series. It was one of the warm up games, and no one knew whether you had been selected as a batsman or a bowler. While you were bowling, Boycott said, " This lad is so gentle in his pace that even my mum in law can hammer him out of the park. " The very next delivery, you had prized out a wicket. You were made to bat at number 7 or 8 even in that same practice match. So it was indeed a pleasant surprise to see you score that magnificent hundred making your debut at Lords.We will remember you for the sheer joy of seeing the Aussies squirm when Steve Waugh`s all conquering unit had arrived in India for the 2001 series. They called it the final frontier, the Sachin Assault on their tour of 1998 was still fresh on their minds, you gave the Aussies as much as they gave you.
Steve Waugh had been engaged in a mental war even before a single delivery had been bowled because you made him wait for the toss. That series will be remembered for VVS Laxman`s 281 at your home ground the , Eden park, but it will also be remembered for the kind of gamesmanship that you displayed so far not seen in India. You showed that there was nothing wrong in an Indian expressing emotion on the cricket field. You may not have had the pace or the physique of a Shoaib Akhtar, but your attitude was as aggressive as him. Little wonder, that Shoaib described you as the best skipper that he had ever played under during the IPL tournament. Pakistan was a team that you had decided to dominate.
You helped us erase the memories of Javed Miandad hitting that last ball six of Chetan Sharma by your own belligerent brand of batting. I can recall your innings from Toronto during the Sahara Friendship cup, to Karachi to the Wankhade! That was the time when Pakistan had a formidable bowling attack, Wasim Waqar followed by Aaquib Javed and Mushtaq and Saqlain bowling leg spin and off spin in tandem. You showed what you were really made of.
It was under your scrutiny that the fulcrum of India`s next generation of cricketers was discovered. Yuvraj Singh, Harbhajan Singh, Virender Sehwag all highly talented players who were groomed well because of your own damn care attitude towards the red tapism so part and parcel of Indian cricket. You took your shirt off at the balcony at Lords when Yuvraj Singh and Mohd Kaif won the tri series final against England. Our chest got a few cms broader that day. An Indian skipper had made Lords look like the feroz Shah Kotla.
We will also remember you for helping us in erasing the controversial match fixing scandal. You had taken over the reins of the Indian team when mistrust was lurking around everyone. Every false move was being construed as one under the influence of bookies. You showed that India had the cricketers who were not only tough physically but mentally as well. You missed the Nagpur test against the Aussies in their last journey here ostensibly because you were scared of facing Mcgrath on a fast bouncy green top.
Papers stated that you had begged Shashank Manohar, a top official of the Vidarbha cricket association to chop out the grass but he didn`t. You were charged of creating a fear psychosis in the team by telling everyone that the wicket was unplayble. Famous batsmen infamous coach Greg Chappel accused you of playing for your own vested interests, of looking after your financial interests at the cost of the team. You kept quiet, came back to the team in the tour to Australia and scored a brilliant ton there. You had always let your bat do the talking when the situation got too hot to handle....
14 Oct 2008 12:43
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Ketul Shah / Wealth Special
MONEY MATTERS: During a cash crunch, many companies look for ways to make an extra buck.
During a cash crunch, many companies look for ways to make an extra buck.
Private sector banks, for instance, have introduced a slew of new charges. And like always, the changes are subtle and you will never know about them until you find a debit to your account that you cannot place.
Let`s look at how some of them will make a dent in your pocket.
Standing instructions
The going rate has been upped to Rs 150 (from Rs 50, earlier). And there`s more; you will pay Rs 25 if you change the standing instructions already given by you.
Miscellaneous charges
Call your bank home – for address confirmation, signature or photograph attestation – and you will end up shelling out between Rs 50 and Rs 100.
ATM transaction
If you are unable to withdraw money due to a lack of funds in your account, the bank will charge you Rs 25 for trying to make that transaction.
Drop box
A charge of Rs 100 to Rs 300 will be levied if you put cash into the drop box! Repeat this and you will be charged up to Rs 500.
Unblocking debit cards
If you have blocked your debit card, you will shell out Rs 100 to unblock it.
New password, IPIN number
Re-issuance of user id, password or IPIN number will be charged henceforth. The charge is Rs 50 per request.
Credit-free days
Several banks have reduced the number of `credit-free days` by five to 10 days. This will affect the payment cycle of the bill.
In addition to this, there are several other charges such as ECS debit return, cheque return, DD issue and cancellation.
So, ignorance is not bliss!
Disclaimer: While we have made efforts to ensure the accuracy of our content (consisting of articles and information), neither this website nor the author shall be held responsible for any losses/ incidents suffered by people accessing, using or is supplied with the content....
MONEY MATTERS: During a cash crunch, many companies look for ways to make an extra buck.
During a cash crunch, many companies look for ways to make an extra buck.
Private sector banks, for instance, have introduced a slew of new charges. And like always, the changes are subtle and you will never know about them until you find a debit to your account that you cannot place.
Let`s look at how some of them will make a dent in your pocket.
Standing instructions
The going rate has been upped to Rs 150 (from Rs 50, earlier). And there`s more; you will pay Rs 25 if you change the standing instructions already given by you.
Miscellaneous charges
Call your bank home – for address confirmation, signature or photograph attestation – and you will end up shelling out between Rs 50 and Rs 100.
ATM transaction
If you are unable to withdraw money due to a lack of funds in your account, the bank will charge you Rs 25 for trying to make that transaction.
Drop box
A charge of Rs 100 to Rs 300 will be levied if you put cash into the drop box! Repeat this and you will be charged up to Rs 500.
Unblocking debit cards
If you have blocked your debit card, you will shell out Rs 100 to unblock it.
New password, IPIN number
Re-issuance of user id, password or IPIN number will be charged henceforth. The charge is Rs 50 per request.
Credit-free days
Several banks have reduced the number of `credit-free days` by five to 10 days. This will affect the payment cycle of the bill.
In addition to this, there are several other charges such as ECS debit return, cheque return, DD issue and cancellation.
So, ignorance is not bliss!
Disclaimer: While we have made efforts to ensure the accuracy of our content (consisting of articles and information), neither this website nor the author shall be held responsible for any losses/ incidents suffered by people accessing, using or is supplied with the content....
14 Oct 2008 10:40
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Press Trust Of India
RAINING WOES: A worker shelters from the rain as he passes the London Stock Exchange in the City of London at lunchtime October 1, 2008.
The stock market is set to bounce back on Tuesday after lunch, at 3:30 PM precisely, after an Armageddon-like situation gets averted, according to legendary British market soothsayer Robin Griffiths.
According to a report on Wealth Bulletin website, a sister publication of business weekly Financial News, the portfolio manager at brokerage firm Cazenove Capital Management, Griffiths has forecasted "Tuesday, October 14 at 3.30 pm", as the right time to enter the market.
According to the report, Griffith had said in August this summer after studying the charts of share price movements: "The main indices will go lower, probably by between 25 per cent and 30 per cent. This move will become frantic and possibly contain some panic in September and October, which
will set up a great buying opportunity."
He had noted at that time that investors should be ready to reinvest in mid-October as "the time to spend that money you can put in the diary: Tuesday October 14 at 3.30 pm after a good lunch."
According to the report, Griffiths reconfirmed his forecast last Friday, saying, "I`ll stay with that call, although we might not quite get the price spike until the end of October.
"I expect the rally to continue for three weeks, after which we should get another dip to near recent lows on no volume and no panic. From that point, I would anticipate a 20 per cent gain by March."
Noting that the UK government is "doing all the right things," the veteran portfolio manager further said there was a massive support for the FTSE 100 index at its March 2003, low of 3,478 points.
The index had fallen by close to nine per cent on Friday to 3,932. ...
RAINING WOES: A worker shelters from the rain as he passes the London Stock Exchange in the City of London at lunchtime October 1, 2008.
The stock market is set to bounce back on Tuesday after lunch, at 3:30 PM precisely, after an Armageddon-like situation gets averted, according to legendary British market soothsayer Robin Griffiths.
According to a report on Wealth Bulletin website, a sister publication of business weekly Financial News, the portfolio manager at brokerage firm Cazenove Capital Management, Griffiths has forecasted "Tuesday, October 14 at 3.30 pm", as the right time to enter the market.
According to the report, Griffith had said in August this summer after studying the charts of share price movements: "The main indices will go lower, probably by between 25 per cent and 30 per cent. This move will become frantic and possibly contain some panic in September and October, which
will set up a great buying opportunity."
He had noted at that time that investors should be ready to reinvest in mid-October as "the time to spend that money you can put in the diary: Tuesday October 14 at 3.30 pm after a good lunch."
According to the report, Griffiths reconfirmed his forecast last Friday, saying, "I`ll stay with that call, although we might not quite get the price spike until the end of October.
"I expect the rally to continue for three weeks, after which we should get another dip to near recent lows on no volume and no panic. From that point, I would anticipate a 20 per cent gain by March."
Noting that the UK government is "doing all the right things," the veteran portfolio manager further said there was a massive support for the FTSE 100 index at its March 2003, low of 3,478 points.
The index had fallen by close to nine per cent on Friday to 3,932. ...
14 Oct 2008 10:35
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Durba Dhyani / IBNLive Specials
TO LIVE-IN OR NOT: Couples find their decisions are often ruled by social and legal compulsions
Maharashtra government cleared the proposal to provide live-in relationships a legal standing, last week. This will give women in live-in relationships the status of `wife`. Any offspring born of this relationship will also have equal rights to wealth and property, as a child born to married parents.
Do YOU think it`s better to know your partner by living with him or her before getting married? Or do you frown upon this concept? We find out what some live-in couples have to say.
Testing the waters
Given a choice between a live-in relationship and marriage, the overwhelming majority still opt for marriage. But it is the approach towards marriage that has changed drastically. Nobody wants to go in for a marriage unquestioningly, and then find themselves trapped with no easy way out.
Prachi, 32, a journalist with a Mumbai daily, has been living in with her colleague and best friend for the past seven years. They plan to tie the knot in the next six months. She says, "Initially I never wanted to marry at all. But after living in with my partner for so long, we realised that it was working out well between us and we could go in for a long-term commitment."
Prachi believes that when you have lived in with your man, you know him in and out - so the chances of unpleasant surprises are reduced.
"When you`re just seeing each other, as opposed to living together, you only see the best side of each other," she feels.
Jayant, 25, an American Accent Trainer with a BPO in Hyderabad, believes that it is extremely important to find out your compatibility quotient, before you commit. He has been living-in with Madhu, for the past one-year and is still exploring the idea of marriage. "Now I know Madhu`s little quirks and eccentricities which I would not have discovered otherwise. Living-in has strengthened the bond between us, and who knows, we may just walk down the aisle someday," he speculates.
Having chosen to take a relationship to the next level from dating, it is not always easy to convince others of this decision. While some manage to gain the support of their parents, others choose to keep it a secret until they are completely sure. "I have been living in for seven years, but I let my parents know about it only three years back. It is best not to involve your family till you are yourself sure of what you want," feels Prachi.
The issue is not just about explaining yourself to parents. Society as a whole is hostile to the concept of live-ins. Ananya, 27, usability expert at HFI decided to move in with her colleague Jedidiyah, a couple of years back. According to her, any relationship should be based on conviction, not convention. She would not never marry someone for the heck of it, or just because others wanted her to.
But how do the people around her react to her decisions? "Though I have the complete support of my parents, I often have to be diplomatic with others. Especially when it comes to things like renting a house together. Some landlords do shut the door on us. "I do not introduce Madhu to everyone as my live-in partner. And since we cannot antagonise society, it is best to be diplomatic. I often lie by saying that we are engaged and will be tying the knot soon," confirms Jayant.
When it does not end in marriage
What happens when you discover, in the course of living together, that it is not working out? "You cut your losses and move on. It is extremely painful, but I have no regrets. Better now, than after years of marriage," affirms Mayur, 31, a media professional. He recently parted from his live-in mate of three years, Minal, when they discovered that there were too many differences to resolve.
But despite being frowned upon by society and the insecurity of it, live-in partners believe that till you know your partner well, lousy habits and all, it is silly to take a shot at forever. Yes, you may get emotionally involved with a commitment phobic, or feel that you invested too much in a relationship that wasn`t meant to happen, but you have the comfort of knowing that you didn`t walk into something blindfolded.
As Prachi sums up, "I am not afraid to make my own mistakes, as long as they are mine."...
TO LIVE-IN OR NOT: Couples find their decisions are often ruled by social and legal compulsions
Maharashtra government cleared the proposal to provide live-in relationships a legal standing, last week. This will give women in live-in relationships the status of `wife`. Any offspring born of this relationship will also have equal rights to wealth and property, as a child born to married parents.
Do YOU think it`s better to know your partner by living with him or her before getting married? Or do you frown upon this concept? We find out what some live-in couples have to say.
Testing the waters
Given a choice between a live-in relationship and marriage, the overwhelming majority still opt for marriage. But it is the approach towards marriage that has changed drastically. Nobody wants to go in for a marriage unquestioningly, and then find themselves trapped with no easy way out.
Prachi, 32, a journalist with a Mumbai daily, has been living in with her colleague and best friend for the past seven years. They plan to tie the knot in the next six months. She says, "Initially I never wanted to marry at all. But after living in with my partner for so long, we realised that it was working out well between us and we could go in for a long-term commitment."
Prachi believes that when you have lived in with your man, you know him in and out - so the chances of unpleasant surprises are reduced.
"When you`re just seeing each other, as opposed to living together, you only see the best side of each other," she feels.
Jayant, 25, an American Accent Trainer with a BPO in Hyderabad, believes that it is extremely important to find out your compatibility quotient, before you commit. He has been living-in with Madhu, for the past one-year and is still exploring the idea of marriage. "Now I know Madhu`s little quirks and eccentricities which I would not have discovered otherwise. Living-in has strengthened the bond between us, and who knows, we may just walk down the aisle someday," he speculates.
Having chosen to take a relationship to the next level from dating, it is not always easy to convince others of this decision. While some manage to gain the support of their parents, others choose to keep it a secret until they are completely sure. "I have been living in for seven years, but I let my parents know about it only three years back. It is best not to involve your family till you are yourself sure of what you want," feels Prachi.
The issue is not just about explaining yourself to parents. Society as a whole is hostile to the concept of live-ins. Ananya, 27, usability expert at HFI decided to move in with her colleague Jedidiyah, a couple of years back. According to her, any relationship should be based on conviction, not convention. She would not never marry someone for the heck of it, or just because others wanted her to.
But how do the people around her react to her decisions? "Though I have the complete support of my parents, I often have to be diplomatic with others. Especially when it comes to things like renting a house together. Some landlords do shut the door on us. "I do not introduce Madhu to everyone as my live-in partner. And since we cannot antagonise society, it is best to be diplomatic. I often lie by saying that we are engaged and will be tying the knot soon," confirms Jayant.
When it does not end in marriage
What happens when you discover, in the course of living together, that it is not working out? "You cut your losses and move on. It is extremely painful, but I have no regrets. Better now, than after years of marriage," affirms Mayur, 31, a media professional. He recently parted from his live-in mate of three years, Minal, when they discovered that there were too many differences to resolve.
But despite being frowned upon by society and the insecurity of it, live-in partners believe that till you know your partner well, lousy habits and all, it is silly to take a shot at forever. Yes, you may get emotionally involved with a commitment phobic, or feel that you invested too much in a relationship that wasn`t meant to happen, but you have the comfort of knowing that you didn`t walk into something blindfolded.
As Prachi sums up, "I am not afraid to make my own mistakes, as long as they are mine."...
10 Oct 2008 11:40
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